I’m going to just put this out there front and center – I’m a homeschool misfit. I have never felt like I truly “fit in” with any of the homeschool groups that are out there, and sometimes that just makes homeschooling really hard. I’ve been wanting to write about this for a while, but I’m one of those people who apparently seems to be a magnet for those who like to twist my words. I hope that this post is well received for the way I actually intend it to be, and not twisted into something it’s not. I guess we’ll see? Here it goes…
*Disclaimer – I am not knocking any one way of life or another. I love my friends from all different walks of life, and I believe in a “live and let live” way of looking at life. Sometimes its hard, and I’m certainly not perfect, but this post is in no way, shape, or form judging anyone for their lifestyle!
You see, I’m a Christian, but I’m a very laid back Christian. You wont find me in church on Sundays, and I’m horrible about reading my scriptures. I have very unique religious views and none of the churches around here seem to line up with them completely, so I basically just keep to myself on Sundays. I’ve tried using essential oils and they just don’t work for me, so you wont find me trying to buy or sell any of that (I seriously wish they did! I’ve tried!). I don’t listen to Christian music on the radio, and I’m not scared to let my children watch the news or certain PG-13 movies. I’m just too laid back for all of that.
Don’t get me wrong though, I have absolutely NO issues with people who do all of those things. In fact, I’m happy for those who find happiness in living their lives in that way! I just find that when I have attempted to live that way, thinking it was the way I was supposed to be living, I ultimately felt like I was just being a poser. It just isn’t the lifestyle for me! I do love my Christian friends dearly though and have so much respect for them!
On the other hand, I’m much more conservative than most liberals. Again, to each their own. Just because I don’t necessarily have the same political beliefs as others doesn’t mean I’m going to snub my nose at them and look at them as a lesser breed of people. I know that non-Christians live by good morals and standards as well. In fact I know quite a few extremely liberal homeschool moms who have amazing children who are very well behaved and loving. But again, I do lean more conservative in my political views, so sometimes its really hard for me to hang out with super liberal people too because, face it, we just don’t mesh well sometimes. I’m too outspoken and hate to debate. I still have love for my liberal friends. It’s just…hard.
Being a misfit is a hard life to live, and can be very lonely at times. Sometimes I pass up on field trips or outings because I know how exhausting its going to be. It’s hard to chime into certain conversations because you know you’re going to eventually say something that will get you “the look” (and both sides of the fence has “the look” too – If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of it then you know exactly what I’m talking about). Or, there’s the conversations that suddenly go awkward because neither party knows what to say, but both are trying so hard to be polite even though they have no idea what to say that will make it any less awkward (I don’t even try to talk about science anymore). It’s hard to hang out with others you just don’t feel 100% comfortable with sometimes, because it’s such a draining experience to constantly smile and bite your tongue. If you know me, my tongue can only bleed for so long.
So what does being a misfit homeschooler mean to me? It means that I like to look at both sides of the spectrum, and teach both views to my children, and I try to teach them in a way that lets them know they have the freedom to choose their own path. I don’t ever want my children to grow up feeling like they have to believe, say, or do something just because it’s what I would want. I don’t want my children to live in fear of disappointing me one way or another. I will always make sure they know how I feel about something, but I will not tell them what they have to feel or believe. I’m sure there are plenty who disagree with my methods, and that’s fine. It seems to be working well for me and that’s all that really matters to me.
So, here I am in all of my misfit glory! Do you feel like you are a misfit homeschooler? Do you feel like you don’t fit in with other homeschoolers? Let’s talk about it! Comment below, so us misfits can unite! 🙂
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