I’m going to just put this out there front and center – I’m a homeschool misfit. I have never felt like I truly “fit in” with other homeschool moms out there. Sometimes that makes homeschooling really hard.
*Disclaimer – I am not knocking any one way of life or another. I love my friends from all different walks of life, and I believe in a “live and let live” mentality. Sometimes it’s hard, and I’m certainly not perfect, but this post is in no way, shape, or form judging anyone for their lifestyle.
Homeschooling and Christianity
You see, I’m a Christian, but I’m a very laid back Christian. You won’t find me in church on Sundays, and I’m horrible about reading my scriptures. I have unique religious views and none of the churches around me seem to line up with them completely.
I don’t listen to Christian music on the radio, and I’m not scared to let my children watch the news or certain PG-13 movies. I’m just too laid back for all of that.
In the past, I tried to live in a way that I thought was expected of me. I did all the things I thought I was supposed to do. “My life will be full of bliss this way,” I told myself.
In reality, I was miserable. Instead, I felt like I was being dishonest with myself.
It just wasn’t the lifestyle for me.
When I let go of trying to fit the mold, I found so much peace and confidence in myself.
Homeschooling and Politics
On the other hand, I lean much more on the conservative side of politics. Sometimes this makes it’s really hard for me to hang out with a more liberal crowd because we can’t seem to mesh well at times.
I’m too outspoken about my views so I have a hard time voicing my opinions on topics that I disagree with. Even though I have a lot of love and respect for my liberal friends, it can often be very difficult (or even impossible) to see beyond the difference in political views.
Politics and adulting are just hard.
Despite my more conservative views, I know quite a few extremely liberal homeschool moms who have amazing children. Their children are some of the best when it comes to being well behaved and loving.
The Loneliness of Being a Misfit
Being a misfit is a hard life to live, and can be very lonely at times. Sometimes I have to pass up on field trips or outings because I know how socially exhausting it’s going to be.
It’s hard to actively participate in certain conversations. I know that when I do I will eventually say something that will get me “the look”. Both sides of the fence have “the look” too. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of it then you know exactly what I’m talking about.
Then, there are the conversations that suddenly go awkward because neither party knows how to respond after a comment is made. For this reason, I don’t even try to talk about science anymore.
It’s hard to hang out with others you don’t feel 100% comfortable. It’s very draining to constantly smile and bite your tongue.
If you know me, my tongue can only bleed for so long.
Finding the Middle Ground
So what does being a misfit homeschooler mean to me? It means that I like to look at both sides of the spectrum and teach both views to my children.
Teaching my girls in a way that lets them know they have the freedom to choose their own path is extremely important to me.
If my children ever grew up feeling like they have to believe, say, or do something just because it’s what I would want, I feel like I would have failed as a mother.
Living in fear of disappointing me one way or another is not a life I want my children to live.
My goal in this life is to make sure my girls always know how I feel about something, but have the freedom to choose what they feel or believe.
Proud Misfit Homeschooler
I’m sure there are plenty who disagree with my methods, and that’s fine. It seems to be working well for me and that’s all that really matters.
So, here I am in all of my misfit glory!
Do you feel like you are a misfit homeschooler? Do you feel like you don’t fit in with other homeschoolers? Let’s talk about it! Comment below, so us misfits can unite! 🙂