Yesterday when I woke up I was feeling so motivated and ready to go. My kids were behaving so well and had already started on some of the easier parts of their lessons for the day. I sat down with my coffee as I do every morning and logged into my email and social media accounts. They day continued to go great until I entered into a conversation with someone. Things were said that really upset me, and it really affected me. For the rest of the day I was upset, angry, and irritable. I had somehow let this one unfortunate issue completely change the outlook on my day!
The worst part though was that it changed how I was interacting with my kids! I started getting really annoyed at simple little things that really shouldn’t have annoyed me. I was short with my responses to them and kept telling them to “go play and leave me alone for a little while”. My emotions about this incident were completely taking over me, which in turn, were beginning to take over not only my day, but my kids day as well!
After a little while, the reality of my mood and its effects on my kids started to set in. I could see the confusion and hurt in their eyes. They couldn’t understand why mom was doing great and was so happy only a short while ago, and then out of nowhere was a completely different person who was snapping at them over the littlest things. They had no idea that anything had even happened, yet they were getting the grunt of my frustration. I had let my issues affect them, when the issue itself didn’t even involve them.
I felt awful! It made me realize how easy it was to let my issues with the outside world take over and how one small action could completely destroy their entire day. The thing is though, it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s only that way if you let it happen. So today I’m sharing this in hopes that this message can maybe help someone else who might be experiencing this same thing.
It’s my job to shield my kids from things that can hurt them physically, mentally, and emotionally. When I allow my issues with the outside world to affect me, then I’m also allowing them to affect my children as well. My children deserve the absolute best from me 100% of the time [even though I know it’s impossible to be “perfect”], and I can’t be at my best when I let such unimportant issues consume me. Unfortunately with my anxiety issues, its hard for me to just ignore things and not think about them, so sometimes the only way to avoid the issues is to completely unplug and disconnect. Turn off social media, the phone, the tv, etc, and be more present with my kids!
So the next time you’re having an issue with someone or something from the outside world, shut the door on the problem immediately. Don’t allow your emotions to take over your entire day, and more importantly, don’t give those negative emotions to your kids. Remember that your kids didn’t create the problem, so they don’t deserve the second hand backlash! They need you at your best, and you need them so that you can be at your best! Actions speak louder than words, so pay close attention to how your acting towards your loved ones. Treat them the way they deserve to be treated, even when you’re having a bad day.
I hope my sharing this message will help someone who may be going through this same thing!
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