Monsters: it’s become the new nightly “thing” here. My four year old goes to her bed, lays there for about 15 minutes, and then asks me to come sit with her because she’s scared. Tonight’s monster was some big scary thing that runs around slashing the entire city. She hadn’t seen it anywhere, apparently she just “thought it up by herself”.
We’ve had many conversations about the monsters she seems to encounter just before bed. Usually they’re made up characters she’s evolved in her own head stemmed from completely innocent video game characters. In the past I’ve tried “monster spray” (aka Fabreze in this household) in the past which is what usually worked with my older girls, but my youngest wasn’t having any of it.
I decided tonight was the night to finally conquer these bedtime monsters once and for all. I hopped up out of her bed and said, “Okay, lets get up and go fight this monster once and for all!” She looked at me like I had three heads and wasn’t sure if I was serious or not, but she slowly crawled out of bed, clutching on tight to her beloved “Owliver” stuffty. I grabbed a piece of paper and pencil for her, and together we sat at the kitchen table.
“Show me exactly what this scary monster looks like and what he does”, I told her while handing her the pencil. She immediately got to work telling me all about him, how he destroys the city by simply slashing everything in half with his sharp claws. She spent maybe 5 good minutes drawing this terror of the night (which for this 4 year old, is a good chunk of time).
Then I told her It was time to beat this monster once and for all, and the only way we can do that, is to make him not look so scary anymore. “What can we do to make him look silly?” I asked her. We decided the monster needed to be wearing a silly hair bow and dress. Then we decided that “Owliver” was going to save the day. We spent another 5 minutes or so making this monster look as silly as possible. She was laughing, I was laughing, and her fear – gone!
We walked back to bed talking about how silly the monster was and when I asked her if she was still scared, she laughed and replied, “No mommy! Monsters aren’t scary when they wear silly hairbows!” and then I got the biggest hug I have gotten from her in a long time.
Take that monsters! And, I’m totally logging this as art…